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Jim Mora's Bruins keep memory of Nick Pasquale alive

The player's father says the UCLA coach visited his family hours after his son died in September and has kept them close ever since.

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Coach Jim Mora and the UCLA football team observes a moment of silence in memory of teammate Nick Pasquale before the start of a Sept. 21 game against New Mexico State. Mora hasn't let his obligations as a college football coach hinder him from helping Pasquale's family. (Luis Sinco / Los Angeles Times / September 21, 2013)

The most important huddle of the UCLA football season occurred long after a game, far from a field, in the center of a storm far greater than sport.

On a Sunday afternoon, Sept. 8, at 2:30 p.m., UCLA's Jim Mora walked through the front door of the San Clemente home of the grieving family of Bruins receiver Nick Pasquale, who had died just hours earlier when hit by a motorist while walking home from a party.

Mel Pasquale, Nick's father, remembers the exact time, the exact words, the exact tone of voice.

"Coach Mora called us right after we received the horrible news and said, 'What is your address, I'm coming down, it's not up for discussion, I want to help,'" Mel recalled. "Then he walked through the door and said, 'OK, what can I do?'"

Pasquale wasn't a star, wasn't on scholarship and had a career consisting of exactly one play. But in Mora's view, none of that mattered, because Pasquale was a Bruin.

Mora waded through the media crowd outside the Pasquale home and was ushered inside. He and the Pasquales — Mel, wife Laurie, son A.J. — hugged, wept, reminisced about the tough little walk-on.

Then, in the middle of the huddle, the coach began calling plays.

"He literally coached us up on how to handle this," Mel said. "He said, 'Here's what's going to happen now. Here's what the media is going to do. Here's how you can deal with it.'"

Four months later, on the final day of the season, the huddle remains. This time, Mora connected with the Pasquale family from out of the sky. Before the Sun Bowl game in El Paso, a pregame skydiver fluttered out of the clouds wearing Pasquale's No. 36.

"I saw it and I was, like, 'Wow, this just goes beyond anything I could imagine," Mel said. "It was just one more amazing thing that UCLA and Coach Mora have done to stay part of our lives."

It was, indeed, the culmination of a unique season's worth of support that has helped a family begin the process of healing while defining a football program in the process of change.

If you don't believe Mora has instilled a new football culture stressing passion and togetherness, then you need to listen to the father of the 5-foot-7 kid whose spirit became a giant.

"On that first day he walked through our door, Coach Mora said, 'My support is not just for now. … This is not going to end,'" Mel recalled. "And he was right. It has not ended."

From the No. 36 patch on their jerseys to the No. 36 painted into the Rose Bowl field, from their 38 unanswered points against Nebraska in the first game after his death to Mora's public acknowledgment of his influence during the Sun Bowl trophy presentation, Pasquale's presence has been the season's most powerful constant.

"After something like this happens, there's usually an initial rush of emotion by everyone on the outside, then it goes away," Mora said. "I wanted to make sure that didn't happen here. I didn't want our support to be just a gesture. I wanted it to be real."

Until the Sun Bowl, a trip they could not make because of a previously planned holiday visit with family out of the country, the Pasquales had attended every UCLA game at home and away. On the road, they often hung out at the team hotel with other members of the Bruins family. Before home games, they were hugged by the players on Bruin Walk. After the games, they would wait outside the locker room with other families and receive more hugs.

"These players became like my sons, so many sons, everyone stopping by and greeting us and asking us how we were doing," Mel said. "It was as close as I felt to Nick since he was gone."

Throughout the weeks, the Pasquales would receive calls and texts from players and coaches, especially Mora, who would often phone Mel while he driving home from the field.

"I just feel like, part of our responsibility as human beings is to comfort those who need comforting," Mora said. "I feel it's so critically important for our program to be there for their family, to somehow give them some piece of mind."

In comforting the Pasquales, the Bruins lifted themselves. Throughout the season, Pasquale's name is listed on the depth chart as a backup to every position on the kickoff team. After every special teams practice, they ended a chant with his name.

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