9/18 Special Column: Parental teamwork is essential to child's success

By Anita Blake, Rehoboth Baptist Church


Henry Ford said of teamwork, "Coming together is a beginning, keeping together is progress, and working together is success."

Often we are very challenged to work as a team in our parenting efforts. We have a tendency to see parenting one way, which is "our way." We often find it very natural and easy to be critical of how our child's "other" parent disciplines, interacts, or builds relationships in every type of family dynamic (blended, married, divorced, etc).

By failing to respect and honor the other parent, we send very mixed messages to our children. This attitude or habit actually is a very destructive force in raising a child.

The team approach to parenting involves reasoning together while respecting each other's views and role in the life of the child. This is a critical component of a well adjusted child. It is the concept that the "sum total of the two of you is more than the individual parts."

When God established parenting in His Creation in the beginning of time, He instructed "them" to go forth and be fruitful and multiply.

Genesis 1:27-28a (NLT) So God created human beings in His own image. In the image of God He created them; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them and said, "Be fruitful and multiply."

Mothers and fathers bring very different roles to the table of parenting, but share a common goal. These very different roles are by God's design.

When we become critical of each other we say to God "I know better than you." Parents need each other and most importantly your child needs you to work together as a team.

Proverbs 15:22 (KJV) Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counsellors they are established.

A poster reads, "teamwork is the ability to work as a group toward a common vision, even if that vision becomes extremely blurry"