I love the photos of Olivia Wilde breastfeeding her baby son Otis in the September issue of Glamour.
Photos of breastfeeding celebrities looking gorgeous is officially a trend: model Gisele Bundchen, pop star Gwen Stefani, rocker Pink — we've seen them all. The Daily Beast compiled an image gallery and paired it with a piece by Amanda Marcotte lauding the progress inherent in such images.
"Even though most mothers have jobs outside of the home, there's still a massive amount of pressure — much of it coming from mainstream media — to believe that you're failing as a mother if you don't stay at home," Marcotte writes. "That's why it's so cool to see that many of these breastfeeding pictures are 'action shots' of women on the job. Sure, their job is to be beautiful for the camera, but by being photographed at work doing something so strongly identified with motherhood, they are making a statement about how having a career and being a mother should not be considered incompatible."
I totally agree. And wouldn't it be even cooler if we saw more images of famous men having a career and being a father — two things that are never considered incompatible?
Not just images of Bundchen bringing the kids to visit her husband, New England Patriot Tom Brady, at training camp. Not just Us Weekly snapshots of Gavin Rossdale, Stefani's husband, frolicking on a beach with their sons. Those are lovely in their own right.
But those early months of parenting — the breastfeeding months — are often the hardest, darkest, most exhausting period of a woman's life. Throw career maintenance in the mix and you've got yourself one struggling mother. (Actually millions of struggling mothers.)
A dad who takes on his fair share of night feedings and day feedings and endless crying jags and bleary-eyed stroller pushes around the neighborhood is a lifeline.
I have no reason to believe any of the celebrity dads in question aren't pulling their weight. There's a good chance they are. Time-use surveys analyzed by the Pew Research Center show modern dads spend double the time on child care and household chores that they did in 1965.
But as long as we're swooning over images capturing new moms beautifully balancing careers and motherhood, let's see some photos of dads making sure they're also getting a much-needed break.